So here it is. I didn’t want to post something on this subject but I feel I need to let it out now. Not because it bothers me but because people seemingly think it is their business.
The question that a few people have been asking me for quite a while now is why am I single? Is there any right or wrong answer to this? I find that no matter what answer you give there is quite the distaste towards women that are single.
Before I give you my final answer to the “why am I single?” question. Give me a moment to go on about it first.
I have sussed out the general idea from a couple of guys judging from their reactions towards my response when they ask me why I am single.
“She’s awesome, good looking and funny BUT she must be a psycho. I mean if she wasn’t a psycho why else would she be single?” – maybe I don’t want to settle for 2nd best just so that I don’t have to be single?
“She is too career driven and too independent, I want a girl that needs me to be her one and all.” – this one in particular drives me crazy, I mean really. Grow a pair. You’d be lucky to date any woman like this.
“She has a cat.” – oh shite, that is so right… you have Play Station don’t you? I have a cat because I know how to share my love and look after another living creature, you f*ck.
“She’s too forward and chatty.” – look, this is who I am. It really is a big part of me. I am forward, that doesn’t mean I am easy and want to jump your bones. I am also pretty sure I made mention on my ‘About Me’ page of how I don’t have the time for any of this who messages who first nonsense. It’s confusing and leaves an empty void of who does what.
I am sure there are a few other things that go through a guys mind but the above are the few that stuck out to me.
Now the single ‘issue’, why is it such an issue to be single? My friends often say to me, stop looking someone will come along one day when you least expect it. This is true. Thing is, I am not so to say ‘looking’ for someone. Would it be awesome to have that special someone who I would really make my one and all? Yes it would and yes damn I am looking, but I am definitely not prepared to drop my standards or just settle for just anyone.
Another friend recently told me that my standards are just TOO high, are you kidding me?? Oh, I am so sorry I thought I deserve to be with someone that is bloody awesome. Sure, there is no such thing as perfect, I 100% understand that. But out there is the perfect fit for me.
The guy that can challenge me (both mentally and physically), can make me laugh, is intelligent, knowledgeable, humble, strong, knows how to kiss me till I am dizzy and is honest is the guy for me. Looks are fabulous, and really are a plus factor but at the end of the day are not that important.
So the answer to the BIG question, “why is a girl like me single?” – because this is where I am in my life right now, it’s not a disease and I am not unhappy about it. Accept it.
PS – guys, why am I forward? The reason is because none of you know where your balls are and know how to ask a lady out these days. No one said that when you go out on a date you have to end up dating or marrying that person. If it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t. Move on, at least you can say you tried.
And I can assure you if you have managed to get a kiss out of me you must have done something right because that is NOT something I throw freely around.
That said… where can I find a man like this?