I sit here asking myself, where to start on this one? I really do not know if I should make this personal because of a recent occurence or just a general article.
Seems people easily get sucked into a world of romance and friendship through social media platforms these days (myself included).
Now don’t get me wrong at all, I have made some amazing friends through twitter over the last 3-4 months or so, but how many of those friends are real? These people who I talk to on a daily basis and share my life with, can disappear tomorrow.
‘Share my life with’ – let me elaborate on this one, because there are people that are out there that take issue with the amount of times I tweet per day, what I tweet and what I share about myself on my blog. I tweet general crap that happens to me during the day, do I expect a response to anything that I say? No, of course not… are all those messages I click send, about my entire existence and completely about who I am? No. Now I am not saying behind it all I am in person completely different on another level and you wouldn’t know who I am if you had to meet me in person compared to the person I am on twitter/my blog. I believe that who you portray yourself to be throughout all areas in your life should be the person you are and want to be both in cyberspace and in person. I have nothing to hide about myself; sure there are moments when I say and do things that I am not proud of – but hey I am also human right? And we do sometimes make mistakes; which I hope I can take something away and learn about it so that I do not repeat the mistakes.
What I have to say is if you do not like what I have to say… and you don’t always have to, because A. I am not holding a gun to your head and B. Not everybody out there needs to like what I have to say because we’re all different – then just don’t follow me/befriend me.
A couple of months ago I learnt the hard way about how close you can allow someone to you when you do not know them well; I found myself in the very same situation a month later… It was literally like I had learnt nothing from the previous time.
Men and women do not get to know each other anymore – they allow themselves to get involved though cellphones/emails/twitter/blogs/facebook etc. and not via face to face contact. Do people even go on dates anymore? Do guys still ask girls for their numbers? I have his twitter account name/bbm pin/email address etc. but what about the phone number? How about you invite me for some coffee or a movie before you invite me to your house? Even if you do not intend on taking me to your bed when I visit it’d just be so much more tasteful if you try get to know me.
Today I share the following 5 points with you:
1. There is so much more to a person than what they have to share about themselves on cyberspace; that is just a fraction of their total existence. Get to know the people around you.
2. If you do not like the person that you have chatted to/met then do not allow it to go on, this just creates a false sense of hope and someone always gets disappointed in the end.
Which brings me to my next point –
3. Not every person you meet in your life in person/on twitter etc. is supposed to be the love of your life, best friend or maker of your future children. Stop thinking like that.
4. Not everything is personal, so stop taking it personally.
Now this is the important one so read it carefully –
5. Decide what you want to take into your life and leave the rest out because there is so much information junk out there and you will just end up polluting yourself and your beautiful mind. Decide who you want to make friends with and who you choose to spend your time with, because you are what you put in and who you choose to surround yourself with.
I am indeed no philosopher and the above might even be a load of nonsense, but if you took the time to read this article and at least took something small out of it that’s great – in fact I have fallen prey to all of the above, and maybe I will still make a few bad decisions that may take me down the same road a few times again but at least I will be more aware of it and perhaps even deal with the situation differently the next time around.
I love the saying – “No man is an island, entire of itself” Translated – Human beings do not thrive when being isolated from others. Which I think is relevant to what I had to say in this article because we need people; relationships are what keep us going, we just need to choose how we handle them and how we talk to each other.
Enjoy life and do not take it too seriously, the only time you may need to take it seriously is when you are face to face with a lion because then you may be in some serious shit right there… oh and it may already be too late; perhaps you’ll have a few seconds to get a tweet in before you start running for your life 😉